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Learning To Embrace The Mess

It happens every year.
After the holiday busyness 
I am filled with plans for my coming year.

In between wrapping presents
setting tables
my heart has been dreaming of all 
the possibilities of the New Year.

I can see it in my minds eye
passionate creative endeavors
growing my business
my house in perfect order
my garden a place of restful spender
a body so fit and active.

then it's the 6th of January
I am wound so tight
even my face aches.
Sleep is elusive.
The decor from Christmas still in my studio
My closets are literal dangerous tripping zones
I have misplaced bills that need to go out tomorrow
my garden is overgrown
 stung with the repercussions of an uncommon freeze.

Then it hits me.

The only way to live in beauty and joy
is to learn to embrace the mess along the way.

To teach myself to breathe deep
look deeper
past the clutter and chaos
choose to decide it is beautiful
just as it is

My epiphanies often come in the garden
when I can quiet my racing mind
be still.

Today I choose to look beyond
what I want it to be.

Instead to marvel in the beauty
of what is.

What has survived the storms

I will embrace my mess
like a new journey
moving quietly forward
 enjoying the changing scenery along the way.

I have traveled enough in my time
to have learned to relish the journey
finding all the beauty I can
 along the way.

As always my friends

I wish you love and joy
as you style your life


  1. Oh, I so agree with you Tamera...and what is so wonderful about getting older is that we think this way...because life is beautiful just as it is...I am so happy to have met you in this interesting and fabulous 'world of blogging'! xx

    1. Catherine, thank you so very much. It was your post yesterday … that got me back on track. Realizing once again … how much of our view of the world … is colored by what we think of ourselves. I knew I needed a major regrouping … with small changes toward this path.

      Thank you for sharing such beauty and wisdom with the world. Mine is so much the better …after finding you.


  2. Dear Tamera,
    You have it figured out and I think that does come from our experiences. While being positive we do not have to see life through rose colored glasses everyday.We have the ups and downs that come with a life well lived.

    The Arts by Karena

  3. One day at a time, Tamera...just one day at a time.

  4. Accepting that absolute perfection is setting us up for disaster, another of those life lessons learned along the way. I learnt this during my daughters illness, that in life some things cannot be controlled. Give me a busy fulfilled life any day over the perfect tidy house.

  5. I had these same thoughts at the end of last year. My nieces and nephews are all "Rock Stars"...doctors, lawyers, lovely highly accomplished beings...yet two of my three sons are still "finding their path". Instead of being envious, I realized that my family is "perfectly imperfect." That thought saved me, as it sums up my beautiful sons, and my family, in a positive, infinitely evolving light. We are all walking our own paths, no one else's. The beauty is in what you choose to see, and how you choose to see it. Great post, Tamera!!

  6. If it makes you feel better I still have a pile of Christmas stuff in the corner of the living room because I chose to paint my bookshelves...which made me so happy. Then I came downstairs and saw it all and ugh! And your post today was exactly what I needed to read. Today I'm not going to sweat the small stuff. Thank you for sharing so inspire me.

  7. Embracing the mess of life with you!

  8. Kudos to you Tamera for living life in all its fullness! You may (or may not!) find the blog post I wrote today 1/7 as a former in-person organizer and now organizing book author interesting/helpful. I think you are already an organized person by your beautiful blog, and especially with all you do and experience in life and all the beautiful celebrations you create for your family and yourself too. You seem to strike a good balance to me between order and beauty. Blessings for a beautiful 2015 fellow SoCal gal!

  9. Gorgeous! Well said, to embrace the mess!

  10. I do my best thinking when things are calm and organised so I can never embrace mess. I wish I was there to help you get everything sorted out. I am very sorry to hear about your garden. Hope it will perk up. I had a massive prune when I got home from work and it seriously cheered me up xxxx

  11. I AGREE!
    EMBRACE the MESS................pop over to me as FIFI has a NEW BOOK out YOU may NEED!

  12. Embracing life as it is. Letting go of everything that hinders love helps too. Beautiful photos of the Southern California Coast. xxo

  13. You're so right. Sometimes we can be so wrapped up in our business we miss the beauty around us.