Learning To Say Yes To Life


Having my child rearing days behind me
and 
not having  a crystal clear vision of my
next chapter
my new personal motto is

Say Yes To Life.

I don't always even have a clear vision of what this means
only
now when my first impulse is to 
say no to something
 because it seems it might be uncomfortable for me
I take a deep breath,  refocus
and 
say Yes to life.

In the month since I have been doing this
I have 

been to a Korean spa
(where clothes were not de rigour … and I ended up actually  shocked how liberating
nudity can be … when everyone is naked … is anybody?).

I have attended fabulous dinner parties
events at country clubs
reconnected with old friends
and 
now I have been to
 Cancun.


There is a quote floating around everywhere it seems that

"Your Life begins 
Where Your Comfort Zone Ends"

I  actually find this quote
quite annoying.
Because you see I do enjoy being comfortable.

But I  also know the truth in these words
especially as I am journeying to my next chapter.

I know as my heart aches for a time that was 
in raising children
it is now my responsibility
to find ways to fill my heart
with my what's next
and 
to do that
I must navigate the uncomfortable for me
and

Say Yes To Life.


I wonder how many times in life we truly allow good to come into our lives.
Maybe it's just me.

But sometimes good fortune makes me really uncomfortable
like if  I accept it
the balance of life will take something I love away.

But  I have realized
this balance is just perception
and 
to change the life I  have for the better
means 
I have to be open to change
have courage for the new
and
Say Yes To Life.

When a dear friend
texted me out of the blue
if I wanted to go to 
Cancun with her the next week
because her husband couldn't make the trip
my first internal response was
of course not.

Then I stopped
and
 asked myself why not.

I had absolutely no obligations with children
for the first time in over twenty two years.

My husband was all on board 
and
excited for this fabulous opportunity
that had come my way.

My work in my studio 
was all up to date.

There was no reason to say no.

So I accepted this generous offer.

Not only was it a great opportunity
but
I would be traveling 
with one of my friends
who I have always said 

has the most beautiful 
zest for life.

Kris and I crossed paths years ago
in our passion for our family
and
soon after our homeschooling journeys began.

But when it comes to some things
we are an odd coupling
I plan for ages
while Kris just gets out and goes.

Even traveling we are an opposite pair
at the airport she will chat everyone up
while I am anxiously
checking again to see if I put my passport back in 
it's rightful place.


Traveling with Kris
was the perfect thing to do
for me right now.

It was kismet
the perfect way for me to

Say Yes To Life
in an impromptu way
I had never allowed myself before.


Even before the offer of the trip
I had told myself many times I wanted to be more like Kris.

To go and live life
with zest and passion.

Her passion for her family
and 
life
knows no bounds.


She will say yes
to so very much in life
especially when it comes to anything travel related.


This is my favorite capture of Kris
out there
in the mix of life.


By saying Yes
and 
taking a chance 
in the  uncomfortable for me ...


I was so richly rewarded …


with beauty
and 
the realization
there is ever so much life 
out there
still to be lived!


I was reminded 
that new deepening friendships
are ever so important
at this time in life
as my beautiful children
move on with their own lives
and 
I and my husband with ours.

To everything there is truly a season
and
 I'm pretty excited with 
this new one
and 
the magic in life yet to be found!


Even simple discoveries
like tiny restaurants off the beaten path
with the most stylish presentations.
I am on a hunt to find these
never seen by me
carafe chillers.


My spirit and soul
have been renewed
by the sheer beauty in the world I found.


Time spent with a good friend
reminds me of 
all the good still to behold
in the coming seasons of life.


My heart is full of gratitude
for the beauty I  got to see
and
the time shared with an inspirational friend.


Sometimes when you 

Say Yes To Life

you end up in  just the very place
your soul 
needed to be that day.


As always my friends

I wish you love and joy
as you style your life










I'll Be Away ...


I'll be away …

I 'll be away for a while …
probably … until next  week.

I have had the fortune 
to be invited by fabulous friend
to spend almost a week in Cancun!

I will be posting often of our adventures on 
Instagram.

Feel free to follow along 
on my fabulous adventure 
you can find me on


Until then as always

I wish you love and joy
as you style your life!

Thank you Kris …
this is surly to be  a most marvelous adventure!


Wishing you all
the very best of everything!


xoxo
Tamera







What I Wore …To A Most Magical Party


My new vintage kimono made it out again this weekend ...


I finally got to wear it styled for the party it was purchased for!

My kimono's first outing was here
where I styled it for a more casual night out.


But this time out 
I pulled out all of my style stops
because 
I was lucky enough to be invited at another of the 
legendary parties
at her Laguna Beach home.


It was an evening 
I have been waiting for with great anticipation!


My Trina Turk
Palm Springs sandals
paired perfectly with the kimono.


I finished the look off with a turban and  shell earrings I designed.


Underneath I wore my silk paired skirts
with a my vintage YSL lace blouse.
My corded belt kept the kimono wrapped in place.


And then  it was off to the beautiful Laguna Beach
and
 the stunning historical residence of the 
whose parties are legendary
 not only for  her 
artistic and sumptuous entertaining skills
but even more so 
for her masterful  gathering of fascinating guests  for her parties!


Magic is always in the air at Andrea's parties …
You can feel it wafting through
the truly romantic space.
It is what party dreams are made of!


Sitting down to a lavishly set table on the veranda 
with the most marvelous food being passed
while getting lost in fascinating conversations
with her  most marvelous guests
is a true gift to my soul.


Andrea's attention to detail
and 
sublime entertaining artistry
makes attending her parties 
an honor
 and
 an always magical memory.



Thank you Jennifer
for this picture!
My handsome husband/photographer
doesn't make it in front of the camera often enough :))


The evening was also had  a fabulous gathering of wonderful bloggers as well.

Some now dear blogging  friends I had already met like
the always glamorous Contessa of
 The Vintage Henhouse
and
the ever stylish Jennifer of
A Well Styled Life.

Cristina of
Griege Design
 was also attending.
Her interiors are always a favorite of mine.
Especially what she accomplished in her amazing  Southern California  backyard!

Therese of
La Lofina Lifestyle
was also there
and
 I was only sorry I didn't get to spend more time with her
as she is ever so warm and engaging!
I just know our paths will soon cross again!

Kathy of
Vintageweave
had stories about collecting in Paris
for her A list clients
I could have listened to all night!

Oh it was such a wonderful night …
with everyone attending
blogger or not
such a joy to spend time with!


Andrea
thank you once again for such a magical evening!
Your generosity knows no bounds
my forever  inspiring friend!

xoxo
PS … Now I can't wait for spring :))


As always my friends


I wish you love and joy
as you style your life





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French Basketeers - Fall Foods French Style


I had the privilege this weekend of 
attending Andrea of the 
French Basketeer's
 fall cooking class.

I have enjoyed each of Andrea's 
seasonal cooking classes
but 
fall has definitely been my favorite!
Most likely because it is one of my favorite
SoCal seasons.


My biggest surprise in the fall class
was learning I could be cooking with all of the gorgeous
pumpkins and squash
I have only been using for
 styling decor 
up until now!



A phenomenal 
Butternut Squash Crostini
was made.
One so fabulous 
I have already made it for my family
along with the rest of
Andrea's perfect fall menu!


During class I make sure to take detailed notes
because Andrea truly knows where 
to find the best of everything ingredient and utensil wise
whether it be in her beloved France or here locally stateside.


Perfect food pairings are always demonstrated …


as well as learning new to me
cooking techniques.


But it is always Andrea's food styling tricks
that get my styling heart a fluttering!

My favorite
her use of a hallowed out Fairytale Pumpkin
turned soup tureen!


Her tip on notching out the lid
made the perfect space for the ladle
for dramatic at table service ...


for her incredible Provencal Pumpkin Soup!


Many different pumpkins were tasted and tested
I was smitten with their
always stylish and useful presence!


As much as I love learning about stylish seasonal cooking
my favorite part of
the French Basketeer's Cooking Classes
is always sharing  the resulting meal
with such fabulous women!


Andrea is a masterful gatherer of people
and
 I believe that has resulted
in the most amazing women
coming to her monthly classes!


I look forward each month
to spending time with Andrea in her kitchen
as well as meeting new women
and
 reconnecting with other 
class returnes like myself!


You can also always 
count on the absolute most wonderful deserts
after all
it is a French cooking class!


I left the class 
with a warm heart
for the women there
as well as the desire to cook for my family and friends this season!


Thank you Andrea for sharing you gifts
of style and taste!

I can't wait for next month's holiday class!
Sure to be another highlight of my month!


As always my friends


I wish you love and joy
as you style your life






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