Hello Monday ... Hello Gratitude




I woke up this morning with a happy heart
and 
excited to write my favorite kinds of post

Hello Monday ... Hello Gratitude

They are simple posts
just taking the time to focus 
on all of the good in my life.

If you have been following my blog 
during this last year 
you know it's been a tough one for me.




But I finally feel like I'm turning a corner.

That I am coming back into myself.

That I can once again feel joy
and 
excitement for my future.


I am realizing 
that often when times are tough
it is too easy
to self identify with the pain.


It feels as though it moves in to your soul
to take up residence
blocking out so much of the light and good.
In a way
that changes your personal lens
as to how you see life.


I want to break out of that mindset
to get back
 into the one that I know to be true.




One of 
Gratitude and Joy.

Realizing 
Life is Always 
Peaks and Valleys

but
 we can choose 
daily Joy.


I am choosing today
to lay my wounds down.


Grateful
for what I have learned from them.
Taking all the gifts they gave me in 
growing my soul.



All the while knowing
I do not have to 
self identify with my wounds.


I am not my wounds.
I do not have to continue 
to do life 
as a wounded soul.


I can choose to see myself differently.


To recognize the
 strength 
and 
courage
I gained
from my wounds.





To lift my head and my heart
with self respect.


To recognize how much my heart has once again grown
through the pain.


A heart that is now so much softer to 
the pain of others.

Life is hard on us all 
at one time or another
that's why community matters ever so much.


And
 I am ever so 
Grateful
to all of you here.
Your comments and support
have meant the world to me.

Sending out much love
this Monday!!

xoxo






As always my friends

I wish you love and joy 
as you style your life













FierceCon 2018



I didn't really want to go to 
 this year.

FierceCon is a conference
for the members of the
Forever Fierce Revolution HERE
It is  a group of women committed to
redefining what it means to be middle age.
To Rewire and Inspire


I was hesitant to go
 not
 because I didn't think it would be great
but
because 
I have been in a personal slump recently.
Truth be told
it's been more like grappling with trying to keep depression at bay 
on the daily.


Going to a conference seemed way too much for me.
I decided not to go several times
but a little voice in me kept saying
Just Go.


I did go
as soon as I realized
it wasn't even depression 
keeping me from going
it was really only
Fear.


I spent the  entire day before 
putting outfits together.
I usually style outfits
two weeks out when I'm on my A game.
This time I was trying really hard to 
get to maybe a C+ game.


I had put all of my time the month before
into a 
Reveal Party 
for our son and his beautiful wife
who is expecting.
You can read about the party HERE


My personal style
was feeling a bit off for my liking.
I definitely prefer
going to conferences 
feeling my best about myself
so I have more to give to others.

This time I was definitely going to the conferecnce
not to inspire
but 
desperately 
seeking 
Inspiration!




I decided Jeff and I could 
most likely make a lovely weekend out of our 
travel to beautiful
Redondo Beach
and
I knew I could find some 
inspiration at
FierceCon
Rewire and Inspire!
I just had to me brave enough
to show up!




This was our second time staying in 
Redondo Beach.
We were here last year for 
the original conference.

It's a lovely place for a weekend getaway
with marinas, piers
and 
beautiful beaches.




The first event of the weekend
was an evening party.



I was amazed at the amount of work
that was put into the decorations
for the event!
Catherine and her people did an amazing job.

Catherine is the spearhead and creator  behind
not only
FierceCon
but the
Forever Fierce Revolution
as well!

You can find her fabulous blog HERE







Besides my search for inspiration
I came to 
with wanting to give one dear friend a real hug.
I was able to do that.

So for me the evening was a success.
I still felt so much more awkward
than I usually do at events.
But I kept pushing through.




I think pretty much the whole weekend
I battled with 
just wanting to go home.
I felt so overwhelmed.

I told myself
just look to one event at a time.


So Jeff and I had a lovely morning on the beach.




After our morning walk
we enjoyed a beautiful brunch.
Then it was time to get back to the hotel
to change.




This picture pretty much sums up
how frazzled I felt  at this conference.
I usually can not wait to wear outfits
I've styled for occasions.
This time things just felt off!

I had styled outfits that were too specific
and
not even realizing the temperature that weeked
would be pushing the high 80's.

I reworked some outfits 
and 
off I went to the event 
I was really looking forward to!




It was a panel discussion with some of my favorite bloggers!

My friends
if you get a chance to go next year
I absolutely recommend
for this alone!


Of course there are so many other reasons to go
but
to hear all of these women's stories
as to how they started blogging
was just incredible.


I was so glad I was sitting in the back
because 
I was so touched by each story
I think I was crying the whole time!


It really is so remarkable
how we all have our own stories 
by this age.


And I have never been so proud
to be a part
of such an inspiring group of women.



I wasn't inspired by just the women 
with 
highly successful blogs
or
social media numbers.

I was just as inspired 
by women
who ventured out on their own
to attend 

Because I know first hand
how hard that can be to put yourself out there!





We all have a story by this age.

We all have a choice to make this time 
in our life
the best time.


There is so much to be said for getting up each morning
and 
looking for the very best in life.

To claim our age.




To claim our ability to be 
Resilient!

To inspire where we can.

And to be open and vulnerable
in our need  
to 
Be Inspired.




I have never been 
a 'joiner'
in my life.

But I am realizing
maybe it's time I was.

Because we are all so much 
better together!




So I will definitely be back at 
next year.

And I have a few notes 
to myself to make it easier on myself next year!
Because this year was 
a hard one attending.
But I am so proud of myself for
showing up
even though!




Next year I will  ....

~ Remember not to compare.
There are so many women doing so many great things
it was too easy to think 
oh I want to do that too!


So I have to remind myself
there is only so much time in a day.

If I want something else big
I need to let go of something 
I already love in my life.


~ I will put more time in before the conference
connecting with people going.
I neglected to do that this year
so I too often  felt I was walking into a new classroom.

You know the feeling
where it feels like everyone else is already 
best friends
and 
you're outside the circle.

I know for a fact that's not how it really was
but I also know how easy it is for 
old memories
to flood in 
when
you're feeling nervous and overwhelmed.



~ I will do a better job packing.
Which means I need to have an organized wardrobe
to start with!

Packing this time made me realize
I need to edit so much out of my closets.
Since I have been back from the conference
I have been culling all of my closets
and 
making a list of what I need to add.


Going to conferences
and 
even just traveling
is hard enough
there shouldn't  be  melt downs 
in just the packing stage.


I am determined to make it a smoother 
calmer process.

And 
when I do 
you know I am 
A Good Girlfriend
and
 will share.

I leave for 
Boston in two weeks
so I am already
in packing prep mode!
I'm definitely refining my packing process!




If you are interested in attending
FierceCon
next year
and 
I highly recommend it!
you can find out all about it


If you do come 
and
 are feeling nervous
come find me!


I will be more than happy to help 
introduce you to some
 absolutely amazing women.


And just know
if 
You are there
You are Amazing Too!




As always my friends

I wish you love and joy
as you style your life











Twinkle Twinkle Little Star ... Gender Reveal




Big news here at the
Beardsley Home

Jeff and I will be expecting our very first 
Grandbaby!!

People have been asking me for years
if I was anxious for Grandkids
now that my three are grown and flown
and 
two of them married.


I always replied
no
I wasn't excited.


I was still getting used to our empty nest
and 
this life transition.




But a couple of months ago
that feeling
mysteriously began to change..


Maybe it was a softening of my heart.



Maybe it was following along with my dear friend
Trina
(you can find her beautiful blog HERE)
as she embraced and celebrated
her own gorgeous Grandchildren
and 
love of family!


But for the first time ever
I was at Roger's Garden
in their new children's boutique
and 
it came over me like a mist
maybe
I would like to have Grand babies in the family.


It actually sounded good to me for the first time ever.


I moved from not really wanting any 
Grandbabies anytime soon
to
I hope I have some 
before I am too old to interact with them.


Noticed I said Grandbabies
not that I wanted to be 
a Grandmother.
It's quite funny how some words are trigger words.
I could definitely embrace for the first time
having 
Grandkids.
But that second noun
would definitely need some work.


Two weeks after this 
I can remember it so vividly
I was walking through 
a hall in our home
and 
it came over me that there was 

A New Soul
on it's way .

I was for the first time in a long time
overcome with a sense of purpose.


I had no idea at the time
which of my three
would be on their way to becoming parents
or
even how soon.


Just that there was someone on their way 
to our family.




Guess who it was?

These two newlyweds 
Hunter and Megan!



After dealing with so much this last year
It was ever so lovely
to have
 happy 
family news!




announced 
their big news 
a couple of weeks ago on Instagram
with this adorable image!


So with this big news
I knew 

A Gender Reveal Party
would be a fun way to celebrate
and 
Witness a Life Moment.



Megan and Hunter
wanted to learn the gender of their baby
with 
their family and dear friends!

To me
that was a wonderful, generous gift to us all!




In the beginning of the party ideation
I was thinking 
simply cake and champagne in the backyard
to celebrate a moment.


But as so happens when my daughter Ellis
 and I do a party
it grew into 
a full on concept party
complete with adorable invites!


TWINKLE TWINKLE LITTLE STAR
HOW I WONDER WHAT YOU 
was our theme for the evening.


These sweet invites are from
We have used this company for most all of our invites of late.


I highly recommend them!
They are easy to work with
and 
always deliver quality invites
in a timely manner.

I love a lined envelope always
and they have a multitude of choices always!





Another huge party perk
you can order the envelopes 
already addressed!

And how sweet are the addition of twinkle stars 
that came on the front!

I just adore adding in all the little details.
An invite always sets a tone for an event!
And snail mail does it best!

I like to think of an invitiation
as a little gift in the mail!




Since I have big clothes and accessory love
I wanted two gender outfits
in complementary  form
with of course
complementary head wear.


How absolutely adorable is this infant trucker cap for him
and 
a felt succulent crown for her!


I built the whole tablescape around these for my  centerpiece.




I hung them on . a vintage screen
and 
started building the tablescape from there.


I knew I wanted to do off hues of the typical blue and pink.
I wanted to have the party leaning to the side of elegant.
I used a minimal of blue and pink
adding in woods, golds and lots of twinkle lights and candles
since it was an evening party.


 I ordered the blocks from Anthropologie
I was so happy to find their nursery items!




As well as these sweet lights with moons and stars.




I had champagne glasses with star charms
to further carry out our twinkle theme.








The cake was store bought, without detail
so I could finish if off with a bouquet of gold glitter stars
and 
babies breath.




We brought the party theme all the way home
with a gold glitter 
Twinkle banner.

The table cloth was my usual drop cloth
finished with macrame garland all around.

You can see how each added element
finishes off the tablescape.




My darling daughter Ellis
really finished things off with 
lovely signage.
Not only explaining each station
but adding words that once again tied in the party theme.




To keep the party interactive
we added in a game.

Everyone was invited to put there name in a jar
depending if they thought the gender was going to be
a boy or a girl.

Once it was revealed
we drew a name from the winning jar.
The winner received a gorgeous gold Voluspa candle!




How fun is this 
Sparkle Station!
Another chance for party interaction!






Our photo backdrop was dressed as well in gold stars.
This deck and backdrop
made for the perfect 'stage'
for the reveal!




And speaking of adorable
how cute is our little Momma to be!




With so many different ways 
to actually do the 'Reveal'
we chose the dramatic balloon pop!

It ended up to be a wonderful choice
but I must admit I was a bit apprehensive about it popping before hand!

We ordered this one from Anthropologie as well.
I knew I was more than happy to pay a little more
for a quality I could trust.

At the party none of us new the gender before hand at all.

Jeff printed off the information
without reading it
placed it in an envelope
that was given to the manager at our local party store.
The balloon was then filled with the corresponding gender color.

When the balloon was popped 
the color would 
Reveal the Gender.




They had no idea the gender here.
At the party there was an overwhelming leaning it would be a boy!




Hunter needle in hand 
ready for the awaited
POP!




It's a Girl!!!




It's one lucky child
to have these two wonderful souls as parents!!




Cheers to New Beginnings
and 
welcoming this new soul into the world!




As always my friends

I wish you love and joy
as you style your life