Crowning Ourselves


Happy New Year my friends!

I am on a mission this year
to help inspire us all to remember to
Crown Ourselves!

Whether it be literal of figurative
it's not about being Queen
it's about learning to
celebrate our own
Crowning Moments!


As I have spent the last couple of days
reflecting on what I have learned this last year
so much of it has to do with not only
 self acceptance
but 
self kindness 
and
 personal grace as well.


I have realized the kindness and grace I offer to myself
has an automatic ripple effect to what I offer to others in my life.

My life changed this year the day I  truly realized
I have been doing the very best I can
with what I know at the moment.

And by accepting this  as my life truth …
I realized others were as well.


The more I could offer grace to myself
the more it was a given to offer it to everyone  else I knew.

When I could turn off
or
 at least turn down
 the critical voice that has always been a resident in my head
by realizing try as I might 
perfection would always be elusive to me …
and
life was indeed hard on us all
at one time or another.

I no longer could expect anyone else to be perfect as well.
I could no longer have unreal expectations
for myself
my kids
my husband 
or 
my friends.


If I gave grace and kindness to myself
realizing
some days will be better than others
but knowing always that 
I am trying to do good

the kindness and nurturing for others 
was already present.


I also no longer had to take others actions personally.
I no longer needed to judge others.
Because  just like me
everyone is doing the very best they can
with what they have at the moment.

Nothing is personal.

By respecting my own story
I no longer need to judge others
and 
there is no longer any room for comparisons
or
jealousy.


This is  the concept of 
crowning ourselves.


The more I am able to revel in the magic 
within my own soul
the more 
I will be able to revel in yours
and everyone else's.


The ripple effect is truly amazing
and
 this is why I think the idea of all of us
learning to crown ourselves daily
is so very important.


When we take the time to
 accept
 validate
and
really love ourselves
and
the magic in our own souls

we have more love to truly offer others..


The more I learn to focus
on the magic in my life
the less time I have to get stuck in the petty.

I see this as learning to work a new mental muscle of
intentional gratitude.
My life has changed so much for the better
these last few years  that I have been practicing intentional gratitude.


The more magic I seek out
the more I find.

The more gratitude
I have for creative ventures
the more I am graced with true creativity.


I am teaching myself
to mentally crown myself
before sleep
and 
once again upon awakening.

It helps me focus on the good I have done
and thus motivates me to do more of it.

They say we become what we think of most.
I am learning 
to think of my good
by remembering
to 
Crown Myself.




I  have been busy in my studio
 designing crowns.

I am intent on designing crowns out of modern materials
for a modern women.

My love of juxtaposition
has me integrating materials usually not associated with crowns.

For my crown here
I have used materials reminiscent of coral
washed in with the tide
and
finished off with hand torn cotton ribbons
to capture a feeling of organic romance.

I wanted a crown that spoke to the ocean
and 
could play well at the beaches edge.


This year I have learned that as lovely as it is to be validated by others
it is so much more important to
 validate
accept
celebrate
and 
Crown Ourselves.

Listen to your own soul
for there you too
will find your own unique magic.




As always my friends

I wish you love and joy
as you style your life
and 
find your own inner magic this New Year!






42 comments:

  1. Happy new Year, my dear. You are a model of grace in your photos and you have a good photographer able to catch that graceness. Bravo for your thoughts full of gratitude.

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    1. Joanna thank you so much for your kind words and your visit here! I wish you and your a year full of abundance and joy!

      xoxo
      Tamera

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  2. Tamera your crown and beauty shine like the rising sun over the oceanside. Loveliness in every way. I am wondering even more now if I misunderstood you last night because I thought you said that I inspired the name of your crown. Much love to you in all your creating, living and just being dear friend. xxo

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    1. Kerrie so lovely to have you visit. Your love and soulful appreciation of the many moods of the ocean are always an inspiration to me. Wishing you a most creative and loving New Year my dear!

      xoxo
      Tamera

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  3. So beautifully expressed, Tamera! This is what I attempt to do every Thursday on my Blog with my I MATTER series....when we care for ourselves from the inside to the outside we can do so much more for the people around us with confidence, strength and joy!! You are gorgeous and such a great example of what I write about! Happy New Year

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    1. Thank you Pam! Yes, you and I definitely have the same marching song these days! Your "I Matter" series is a powerful one … and so very important! I think the more women learn to appreciate their own worth … the larger ripple effect will be!

      wishing you a New Year filled with abundance and love!

      xoxo
      Tamera

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  4. Visiting from Hat Attack! What a beautiful post - the winter white outfit and beachfront setting are divine, and your words are wise. My own mantra for the new year is to remember that the secret to a fabulous life is to live imperfectly with great delight. This is a task easier said than done for me, as I've always been a perfectionist, sometimes to the detriment of joy. I'm glad to see someone who has mastered the task and hope I, too, will continue to progress in that regard. Happy New Year from Red's Shoe Diaries!

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    1. My dear I have just returned from visiting your delightful blog! You New Years attire … so fabulous … full of double servings of both whimsy and sex appeal! Kudos my dear! You love of style is energizing!

      I am also taken with your mantra for the year … "living imperfectly … with great delight"! Well said!

      Wishing you a most joyful New Year!

      xoxo
      Tamera

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  5. A lovely post to read on New Year's Day. Thank you. Surrounding you with the same love that you send out to your readers!

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    1. Why thank you my dear! And special thanks for the love you send!

      Wishing you a magical New Year!

      xoxo
      Tamera

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  6. "I also no longer had to take others actions personally, I no longer needed to judge others, because like me, everyone is doing the best they can with what they have at the moment, nothing is personal".
    Waking up at 5am on 2nd Jan here as I have an early waking toddler and the first thing I read is your beautiful post that helps me no end. The quote above from your post just stood out for me because as a perfectionist one places so much emphasis on being perfect in the fear of being judged harshly and for some reason your words have just let this go for me! Maybe it's the still of a new day, everything so quiet that makes reading your post so meaningful. As someone with no new year resolution this is something I can work on to make my life more meaningful to ME not to anyone else as only I matter to me, if that makes sense!

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    1. My dearest Catherine so lovely to receive this lovely note! My heart is touched you found meaning in my words. Yes, perfectionism can be quite a brutal task master … sucking out so much of the joy in life. But you are ever so wise to put the pieces together … that perfectionism can be a defense mechanism against others judgement. This is something I only recently put together for myself.

      It wasn't until my son's decision to estrange himself from the family … that I realized I had been torturing myself (and thus others around me). with the notion that things were never good enough. I would always foo 110% … when so much less was required. I thought it was just because I had high standards … but in reality come to find out … it was really as just protection from judgement or criticism. When my son left … I was cut to my knees in pain … but also freed at the same time. If being a perfectionist … trying to avoid any type of criticism hand landed me in that space … I was released by the clutches of perfectionism and humbled at the same time. It was through the path of such heartache … that I learned the importance of grace for self … and thus grace for others.

      Thank you my dear … for stopping by and sharing your heart. Big hugs to you and yours … and special cuddles to that toddler of yours. As hard as that time is … it is truly made up of magical moments.

      Sending you thoughts of love.

      xoxo
      Tamera

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  7. What a wonderful way to think and feel, Tamera. Just beautiful !!!
    And, I think you should put those crowns in your shop. Who know, we may all begin wearing them !!
    Sending love....

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    1. Marsha dear thank you for your kind words! I indeed have plans to put a collection in my shop. Crowns are the accessory that I am most interested these days. Not only for their beauty, but also for this special meaning I find behind them. thank you so much for visiting my dear, it's always an honor!

      xoxo
      Tamera

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  8. Dear Tamera. You have never looked more beautiful! Your creative writing inspires me and I am in total agreement with what you express in this post. It's as though we are involved in parallel play!

    Your crown is gorgeous and thank you so much for sharing with Hat Attack. I love the concept of crowning oneself and "reveling in the magic of one's own soul." A practice that I can embrace with all of my heart.

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    1. Dearest Judith, thank you for your words, they are truly a gift to my soul. You have been a tremendous inspiration to me since the first day I came across your blog I even credit you blog here, http://www.tamerabeardsley.com/2014/02/write-blog-you-want-to-read-part-one.html as one of the blogs that influenced my own from it's beginning. so I am ever so honored to be in a "parallel play with you my dear".

      Thank you again for your gift go words … and I think you definitely need a crown! Much love.

      xoxo
      Tamera

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  9. What a very wise and inspiring post! You look absolutely radiant.

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    1. Thank you so very much my dear!

      xoxo
      Tamera

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  10. Beautiful post. Happy New Year!

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    1. Thank you dear! Happy New Year to you!

      xoxo
      Tamera

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  11. Tamera, what wonderful advice. I will be returning to this post often in the year ahead. Absolutely adore those vintage white suitcases, which Mimi and I love to collect and travel with.

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    1. Thank you so much my dear! You and Mimi travel so well … and with such style!

      xoxo
      Tamera

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  12. Lovely! I've been in a crown mood too lately--celebrating the magic; I like that!

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    1. Ruth aren't crowns so good! I know when I put one one … I stand a little taller and walk a little brighter! Thank you for stopping by!

      xoxo
      Tamera

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  13. This is so profound and has so much meaning for me!! Many thanks, I am so happy to have found, read and enjoyed this entry. Your images are beautiful!! Happy 2015, it's going to be awesome!!

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    1. Debbie thank you so very much! Your words are a gift to my heart! Wishing you a New Year filled with joy and abundance!

      xoxo
      Tamera

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    1. Thank you Beth! Speaking of magical … so is the Christmas card you send me! Thank you so much … it was my favorite because of the heart you put into it! You are ever so talented my dear … it has been such a pleasure to watch you rediscover and immerse yourself in your artwork. Not only are your illustrations beautiful … but the personal passion behind them are a magical inspiration!

      Sending you all the best.

      xoxo
      Tamera

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  15. What a wonderful post! I love this time of the year when we all take time to reflect.

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  16. Well said! I love the crown! Beautiful! And Happy New Year to you as well!

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  17. This is beautiful. Something I am trying to learn, to listen to my inner voice. So proud of you for the brave work you have done and are doing. So glad you are able to crown yourself. You deserve it. xoxo

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  18. What a beautiful lady you are Tamera...inside and out. For me, yoga and meditation has helped me enormously with self acceptance and grace...your words are poetic. Wishing you a very happy new year with my love.
    You are simply the best cashmere model ;) xx

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  19. HEY, CATHERINE WHAT ABOUT ME!!!!
    I agree TAMARA you wear that shawl beautifully..................
    LOVE THE CROWN!LOVE IT!I hope you are selling these in your on~line SHOP?
    Love the WENDY ADDISON GLITTER STAR................I too have a few of those from many years ago!Her studio is very close to me.ONE CAN NEVER HAVE TOO MUCH GLITTER!
    2015 has a good ring to it.............Lets see what other things WE HAVE IN COMMON in this coming year!
    THANK YOU for the parcel.........adore it!!
    XO

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  20. What a beautiful and symbolic post - inspirational words for all of us to heed. Thank you for sharing your thoughts throughout the year - they have touched many. May 2015 be full of love, beauty, and wonderful surprises!

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  21. Tamera, you look absolutely naturally regal and I love how you wear flats with this. I suppose the location necessitated that...but still. Brilliant. I am glad you're finding your serenity! Happy new year.

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  22. “Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”
    ― C.G. Jung

    Stunning photos x

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  23. Pure beauty and grace, dear Tamera. These images are stunning. I'm in need of some moments of quiet on the beach. Wishing you and yours a year filled with continued love and inspiration. I love your crowning glory!
    xx, Heather

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  24. 2015 is the year I would like to fall in love with myself, imperfections et al. To live my life as loudly and as colourfully as I possibly can. To walk the reality tightrope just a tad, being careful to not fall. I hope 2015 will turn out to be the year I earn my crown :) xo Sheela xo

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  25. Happy New Year, Tamera I know this year will be truly be so special for you. Beautiful , thought provoking words, self acceptance and a celebration of who we are is the most precious gift . May we all wear our crowns with pride .

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  26. Thank you for the beauty...words and images ~

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  27. What a gorgeous post....I love the words & that crown is stunning, you look amazing!

    Happy New Year :)

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  28. Tamera this crown is OMG beautiful...!!!!!!! Absolutely stunning, I love it! It's so nice to read a post that's all about positive thinking - it's so desperately needed after Christmas and New Year when we feel the most drained (and full). Your outfit and photos are incredible as well, what a post. WHAT a post.

    Catherine, Not Dressed As Lamb x

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