Hello Monday ... Hello Gratitude



It's truly been a rough 2 and a half weeks here.
My mother died on June 8th.
We buried her five days later.
Five days after that my dad ended up in ICU.

But the good part of that is
my dad is  now back home.
And I am ever so grateful.




My mother had a beautiful funeral
 full of friends, family and love.
I was able to speak a heartfelt tribute to her well lived life.
I will write more about that
when it is easier for me.




I am a very big believer in the power of 
Intentional Gratitude
on any given day.
But especially the really hard ones.



And I also know during life's big storms
how  very important 
it is to come up for air
and 
reframe your life narrative
as graciously as possible.


The older I get
the more I know it up to us on a daily basis
to not only look for the good
but do it where we can.
Not only for the benefit of others
but for our own self preservation as well.


I am ever so grateful for the support of friends and family
these last  2 1/2 weeks.

Especially my darling daughter and youngest son.
They have both brought remarkable spouses into our family
who have also been tremendous support.




I am especially grateful
during this exceedingly difficult time
Jeff and I are closer
and 
more solid than ever.
A true testament to all of the work
we have both done in rebuilding our marriage these last seven months.
If we hadn't made it such a priority
these last couple of weeks could have really undone progress.
Instead
I have been so reassured with our commitment to each other.


So many times in life
the darkest days 
can help shine beautiful light.

If we take the time for intentional gratitude.




As always my friends

I wish you love and joy
as you style your life













31 comments:

  1. Tamera..I have been thinking of you these last couple of weeks. My mother passed five years ago at 92...I was 51. We had a challenging relationship for much of my adult life..but we both worked hard to repair things in the last couple years of her life..and what a blessing that was. The internet is a funny thing..strangers share intamacies and feel connected..sometimes intently. While there are huge downsides to this , I believe that bloggers who share, as you do, open paths of connection..and joy..and gratitude. Tamera I believe the Carl Sagan view of life and meaning..we are all stardust..you..me ..our moms..and how glorious that is. eleanore

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    1. Oh Eleanore ... thank you for this beautiful and poetic gift of words. It is exactly the connectedness that you speak of ... that that has me continuing to blog. There is often magic here. Much love to you dear! xox

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  2. So sad to hear this, have faith in those around you to help you and your poor dad pull through. It would be nice to give you a big hug right now, a pity that I can't, X.

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    1. Thank you for visiting here and your condolences darling! Much appreciated. xo

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  3. Tamera,
    You write about the most difficult topics in the most beautiful way. I'm sorry for your loss yet so happy for the amazing miracle in your marriage. Wishing you many happy times while you have your dad with you.
    Blessings,
    Pam

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    1. Pam thank you ever so much for your sweet words about my writing! They really touch my heart! Thank you for visiting and your very kind sentiments darling! xo

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  4. The fact you were able to speak makes me think you are getting Stronger!I love your quote at the end Aspire to Inspire Others and I hope I do that I try and I love to put people in touch with each other!!!Have you Popped by to see my garden in full bloom?I doubt it as you have been very busy but you might have a wee bit of time now so do drop by!!!Next Event For Both Of Us is The Sons wedding‼️‼️‼️
    What to wear for that‼️
    XX

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    1. Oh Contessa you are a continual inspiration to so many, including myself! I can't wait to pop over and visit your magnificent garden my friend!!

      We have just two and a half weeks to Hunter's wedding! When is your son's wedding in July? I can't wait tot see what you choose to wear to the amazing venue! Sending love your way! xox

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  5. I'm very sorry for your loss.

    Suzanne

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    1. Suzanne thank you very much for your condolences darling! xo

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  6. So sad for your loss. Prayers your way .

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  7. sorry for the loss. You do eveything right in your own way. Best wishes and look always forward

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    1. Mumbai thank you for your visit here and kind words darling. Very much appreciated. xo

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  8. I'm sorry you lost your mother and then the problem with your father. It's so hard when our parents's health begins to fail. I like the term, "intentional gratitude." We all should take time, probably multiple times a day... as events happen, to express our intentional gratitude. Along with what's happening in the world and our own lives, it sometimes can seem like everything is toppling in on us, so we need to grab onto the positive things, no matter how small, and recognize how grateful we are for them. xoxo, Brenda

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    1. Thank you Brenda for your visit and gift of words. Yes, on the really tough days ... it's taking time for intentional gratitude that becomes a life persevere of sorts for me. Thank you for your comment my dear ... you put into clarity, just what I was trying to express! xox

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  9. Tamera, you are indeed a continual inspiration in so many ways. Wishing you strength as you traverse these difficult times. May the love of family and friends carry you onward through the roughest patches. Peace be with you my dear. xo, Roxanne

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    1. Roxanne thank you ever so much for your encouraging, sweet words! They are ever so appreciated my dear! xo

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  10. Dear Tamara, My deepest condolences to you and all of your family. Mum's are so very special. How proud your Mum must have been knowing that she had raised such an intelligent, strong and resilient woman to walk forward in her place. Thinking of you......B:) xo

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    1. Brenda thank you for your beautiful and encouraging words! So very appreciated my dear! xo

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  11. I'm very sorry for your loss. Sending you strength.

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  12. My heartfelt condolences on the loss of your mother. My mother passed 15 years ago when I was in my mid 30’s. I still feel that loss every day, time softens the edges but never the loss. My heart goes out to you as you navigate this rocky path of loss and grieving. I agree with Eleanore, you sharing not only the bright side of your life, but the raw and gritty, darker sides that are apart of life as well. You may never know the extent your words, life lessons, triumphs and struggles have helped others...enormously. I often tell my husband ( who because of you sharing your own struggles with your marriage, have helped us to work on ours) that you are like the older sister I never had. Sending you love and light dearest one.

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    1. Audra thank you ever so much darling, for you gift of words. They truly touch my heart. You write with true artistic soul. Your encouraging words are so very appreciated. xox

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  13. I am so sorry for your loss. It doesn't matter if parents are old or frail, their loss hits us like a freight train. I am so glad you had your family to support you.

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    1. Thank you so much dear. i appreciate you thoughts! xo

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  14. I'm also very sorry to read this entry, and wish you strength and warmth during these difficult days.

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    1. Beth thank you so much for your kind wishes! xo

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  15. I am so sorry for your loss. My Mother aka the white angel went to heaven on October 15 2017. I will never be the same. But I know exactly where she is; in Jesus’ arms. Much love in Christ Carla

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    1. Carla thank you for your kind words. And I send you prayers of comfort, for your recent loss of your Mother darling! xo

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  16. Such a sad post Tamera especially after all you have been through. You are such a gracious woman and have taught me so much in recent months. Sending love to you from across the "pond". xx

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