I didn't really want to go to
this year.
FierceCon is a conference
for the members of the
Forever Fierce Revolution HERE
It is a group of women committed to
redefining what it means to be middle age.
To Rewire and Inspire
FierceCon is a conference
for the members of the
Forever Fierce Revolution HERE
It is a group of women committed to
redefining what it means to be middle age.
To Rewire and Inspire
I was hesitant to go
not
because I didn't think it would be great
not
because I didn't think it would be great
but
because
I have been in a personal slump recently.
Truth be told
it's been more like grappling with trying to keep depression at bay
on the daily.
Going to a conference seemed way too much for me.
I decided not to go several times
but a little voice in me kept saying
Just Go.
I did go
as soon as I realized
it wasn't even depression
keeping me from going
it was really only
Fear.
I spent the entire day before
putting outfits together.
I usually style outfits
two weeks out when I'm on my A game.
This time I was trying really hard to
get to maybe a C+ game.
I had put all of my time the month before
into a
Reveal Party
for our son and his beautiful wife
who is expecting.
who is expecting.
You can read about the party HERE
My personal style
was feeling a bit off for my liking.
I definitely prefer
going to conferences
feeling my best about myself
so I have more to give to others.
This time I was definitely going to the conferecnce
not to inspire
but
desperately
seeking
Inspiration!
I decided Jeff and I could
most likely make a lovely weekend out of our
travel to beautiful
Redondo Beach
and
I knew I could find some
inspiration at
This was our second time staying in
Redondo Beach.
We were here last year for
the original conference.
It's a lovely place for a weekend getaway
with marinas, piers
and
beautiful beaches.
The first event of the weekend
was an evening party.
I was amazed at the amount of work
that was put into the decorations
for the event!
Catherine and her people did an amazing job.
Catherine is the spearhead and creator behind
not only
FierceCon
but the
Forever Fierce Revolution
as well!
You can find her fabulous blog HERE
Catherine is the spearhead and creator behind
not only
FierceCon
but the
Forever Fierce Revolution
as well!
You can find her fabulous blog HERE
Besides my search for inspiration
I came to
with wanting to give one dear friend a real hug.
I was able to do that.
So for me the evening was a success.
I still felt so much more awkward
than I usually do at events.
But I kept pushing through.
But I kept pushing through.
I think pretty much the whole weekend
I battled with
just wanting to go home.
I felt so overwhelmed.
I felt so overwhelmed.
I told myself
just look to one event at a time.
So Jeff and I had a lovely morning on the beach.
After our morning walk
we enjoyed a beautiful brunch.
Then it was time to get back to the hotel
to change.
This picture pretty much sums up
how frazzled I felt at this conference.
I usually can not wait to wear outfits
I've styled for occasions.
This time things just felt off!
I had styled outfits that were too specific
and
and
not even realizing the temperature that weeked
would be pushing the high 80's.
I reworked some outfits
and
off I went to the event
I was really looking forward to!
It was a panel discussion with some of my favorite bloggers!
My friends
if you get a chance to go next year
I absolutely recommend
for this alone!
Of course there are so many other reasons to go
but
to hear all of these women's stories
as to how they started blogging
was just incredible.
I was so glad I was sitting in the back
because
I was so touched by each story
I think I was crying the whole time!
I think I was crying the whole time!
It really is so remarkable
how we all have our own stories
by this age.
And I have never been so proud
to be a part
of such an inspiring group of women.
I wasn't inspired by just the women
with
highly successful blogs
or
social media numbers.
I was just as inspired
by women
who ventured out on their own
to attend
Because I know first hand
how hard that can be to put yourself out there!
We all have a story by this age.
We all have a choice to make this time
in our life
the best time.
There is so much to be said for getting up each morning
and
looking for the very best in life.
To claim our age.
To claim our ability to be
Resilient!
To inspire where we can.
And to be open and vulnerable
in our need
to
Be Inspired.
I have never been
a 'joiner'
in my life.
But I am realizing
maybe it's time I was.
Because we are all so much
better together!
So I will definitely be back at
next year.
And I have a few notes
to myself to make it easier on myself next year!
Because this year was
a hard one attending.
But I am so proud of myself for
showing up
even though!
But I am so proud of myself for
showing up
even though!
Next year I will ....
~ Remember not to compare.
There are so many women doing so many great things
it was too easy to think
oh I want to do that too!
So I have to remind myself
there is only so much time in a day.
If I want something else big
I need to let go of something
I already love in my life.
~ I will put more time in before the conference
connecting with people going.
I neglected to do that this year
so I too often felt I was walking into a new classroom.
You know the feeling
where it feels like everyone else is already
best friends
and
you're outside the circle.
I know for a fact that's not how it really was
but I also know how easy it is for
old memories
to flood in
when
you're feeling nervous and overwhelmed.
~ I will do a better job packing.
Which means I need to have an organized wardrobe
to start with!
Packing this time made me realize
I need to edit so much out of my closets.
Since I have been back from the conference
I have been culling all of my closets
and
making a list of what I need to add.
Going to conferences
and
even just traveling
is hard enough
there shouldn't be melt downs
in just the packing stage.
I am determined to make it a smoother
calmer process.
And
when I do
you know I am
A Good Girlfriend
and
will share.
I leave for
Boston in two weeks
so I am already
in packing prep mode!
I'm definitely refining my packing process!
If you are interested in attending
FierceCon
next year
and
I highly recommend it!
you can find out all about it
If you do come
and
are feeling nervous
come find me!
I will be more than happy to help
introduce you to some
absolutely amazing women.
And just know
if
You are there
You are Amazing Too!
As always my friends
I wish you love and joy
as you style your life
I'm so glad you came too, Tamera!! Although I feel like being part of the planning committee makes it hard to spend time with everyone...it's like being at a wedding and not being able to connect with everyone.
ReplyDeleteYou're openness is incredible, and it is SO hard to talk to women you've never met. That's why we had a hugging committee and next year may try an ambassador program for those who've never been before.
As for the inspiration....wasn't it fabulous?? I'm not good with words like you are. But it touched me like no other. And your photos are just perfect....
As for the packing situation....trying to get it right is overrated.....because really, it's not about the clothes. It's the fact you showed up!!
XOXO
Jodie
www.jtouchofstyle.com
Jodie thank you for all the tremendous work behind the scenes, that you put into making FierceCon so memorable! Can't wait for next year darling! xo
DeleteYou are Amazing Tamera๐
ReplyDeleteAww thank you so much darling!! xo
DeleteBrave of you! I'm waiting till you all come to the Netherlands!๐๐๐๐
ReplyDeleteOh Tamera, I am so glad you went and that I had the chance to meet you! I was one of the smallest fishes in the sea of bloggers, fashion models and women who are really making a name for themselves. I was also so nervous to go. Hiking mountains with and sprained ankle was easier then walking into that first night. You were one of the women I immediately noticed but was too nervous to approach. By the time brunch was held on the last day and I actually had a chance to talk with you, you could not have been kinder or more supportive. I would never in a million years have thought it was hard for you. Thank you for such a heartfelt post. I can't wait to see you next time, only this time I will be greeting you with a hug and a big smile!
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DeleteIsn't it amazing that what we think is going on with people is all wrong and we really don't have a clue? I so wish I had been less intimidated by your stylish and elegant "pulled-together" look and had struck up a conversation. Next year, my friend, I will seek you out! Have fun in Boston!
ReplyDeleteMy dear friend, once again, I’m absolutely blown away by you, your courage and your raw vulnerability. Much like Linda’s post about the universal “I Am Not,” your post should be required reading for women of all ages. I’ve been exactly where you are more times than you know. One time, I actually missed a flight because the feeling of dread was so strong. I understand fear. I understand depression. I understand all of it including the packing. It can be so overwhelming and we have had many women open and share similar experiences. We will be taking that into consideration next year as Jodie said to have women connect beforehand and guide others through the process. I’m grateful to you. I look forward to time with just us. Thank you for being such a light and if you only knew how many women were utterly intimidated by your beautiful presence. Love you my friend. Catherine
ReplyDeleteOh Tamera I am so glad you came! I got to meet you! I've been such a huge fan of yours for so long, and you were so kind to me when I came up and introduced myself! I thought you looked stunning every time I saw you! But the best of all was how kind you were and welcoming. I was a bit nervous myself and you really put me at ease! I need to work on my packing for sure! Looking forward to next year! Love, Amy
ReplyDeleteTamera - I can relate to absolutely everything in you’ve written. I wanted to attend FierceCon but came up with all kinds of reasons why it wouldn’t work and talked myself out of it. Of course, the real reason is the fear and dread of ‘walking into a new classroom.’ And, the feeling of being inadequate in the presence of so many fabulous women. I don’t have a blog (although it’s set up and ready to go, I continually pull back) or a large Instagram following and so I justified my decision by determining myself unqualified and unworthy. Had I been brave enough to register, I would have panicked at the packing stage and possibly never gotten up off my closet floor and onto the plane. Had I managed to throw some things in a suit case I would have arrived feeling everything I brought was all wrong. When you do figure out a smoother, calmer process for packing I’ll be all ears. In the meantime, I think I’ll work on editing my closet a bit more. Someone (who? . . . probably a French woman) said, 'American women have too many clothes to be well dressed’ and I’m guilty as charged. I often wonder how I can have so many clothes yet nothing to wear. Wishing you a smooth and calm process as you pack for Boston. xo
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