Not Young, Thin or Rich ...



I am still drawn to changing the name of my blog to
Not Young, Thin, or Rich
and 
Still Living a Wonderful Life
I wrote about the idea first HERE

I have to remind myself of this often recently.


Blogging and Instagram can be a tricky business
at least for me sometimes
unless I focus on my own truths and gifts.

Some days it can be too easy
to be swept up in the winds of comparisons
and 
lose  sight of  my own true path and vision.


So I must intentionally  refocus my framework
and
 remind myself
as much as I love and enjoy my creative pursuits
I will always step back from blogging or 'branding'
for family.

Family for me is always first.
So I give myself Grace
when I don't feel as accomplished as I would like some days
(or recently months).

I remind myself how blessed I am to have the opportunity
to spend time focusing on family when needed.


But the best thing I do for myself
is remembering to
Crown Myself
and
 not be in the aimless search for outside validation.

When I do
I feel my soul start to calm
in the knowing 
we are all blessed 
with our very own gifts, truths
and 
life paths.

I can feel my life blood of creativity return.


I remind myself I truly have no desire to be younger
because I am in love with the person age and wisdom 
have honed me into.

A soul much more loving and able to give grace not just to others,
but myself as well.
I am more comfortable in my own skin than I ever have been.


I often have to remind myself to see the beauty in this body that is mine.
It is a strong healthy body
that birthed three wonderful souls.
I daily have to train my mind to focus on how grateful I am to have a body that still serves me well
and
'let go' of some archaic inner voices of my past
that try to suck the joy from my day by endlessly focusing on imperfections.
It is an inner monologue that never serves.


Lastly I remind myself to take time for Gratitude
each and every day.

Gratitude for the person I have become
and
for the life I have the opportunity to lead.

I am all good with not being
Young, Thin or Rich.

Because I have truly learned to
Crown Myself.


As always my friends

I wish you love and joy
as you style your life





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37 comments:

  1. I love this post, Tamera. It comes at just the right time for me, when I am judging myself (not by other people's standards, but by my own) for not being good enough. I too have to work to quiet those voice that tell me I'm just not cutting it, and that I'm disappointing myself when really, I'm just spread too thin to do everything with excellence.

    I always (and have recently had to) take a step back from Instagram and blogging when my family needs me to be more present and needs more of my focus and attention. That is what matters most.


    You inspire me with every photo and post that you do; I just adore your energy. Who needs to be young or thin or rich when you are MAGIC and BEAUTIFUL!? And you certainly are.

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    1. Lisa thank you for your lovely gift of words darling!! I so appreciate you visit! I adore you and your fabulous blog! Your last post about finding balance with your 4 G's of Gym, Gin, Gardening and Girlfriends was inspired and definitely advice I too practice!!

      As someone older and further down the mothering path, with a completely emptied nest, savor those precious moments with your your little guy! From this end ... it seemed to go by in a flash!

      Thanks again for your visit gorgeous!

      xox
      Tamera

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  2. This brought tears to my eyes, as it hit my heart. That judgmental/comparing voice in my head is so loud and bothersome at times. Your reminder to be grateful is just what I needed to read. Thank you for a beautiful post.

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    1. You are so welcome darling! I am honored it was a good reminder! I am the first to need continued reminding! All the best to you!

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  3. I'll try to post the comment again. (This time spelled correctly) This is so beautiful and inspiring! Thank you so much for sharing it with us! During times of stress we are all so hard on ourselves. It would be so magical if we could do this every day to brighten our mood :)

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    1. Eva thank you so much for your gift of words darling! My heart thanks you!!

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  4. YOU live in a difficult area...........as you well know!!!
    There are STANDARDS...........but are they REALLY HAPPY???
    How many of them know how to put an outfit together like YOU DO!
    Or drape fabric around your bed like a cocoon?
    SKINNY People tend to LOOK SICKLY as they AGE.................where as THE GALS THAT HAVE THE MORE IS MORE LOOK tend to LOOK YOUNGER!
    WE LOVE YOU!!!!
    YOUR HUSBAND LOVES YOU!!!!!!!!
    AND I BET THREE KIDS LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!
    AND I WOULD LOVE YOU MORE IF YOU WOULD COMMENT ON MY BLOG OR COMMUNICATE WITH ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    WE are two peas from the same POD!
    Heck we both worked at SCP at the same time...................that MUST MEAN SOMETHING!!!!!
    XX

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    1. How lovely to have you visit darling! My post has nothing to do with where I live. I am quite content about how I present myself. I was rather trying to speak of the critical voice that lives inside me ... never quite satisfied with my accomplishments ... no matter the category of attempt. It's an old playing record ...in which I should be continually asking myself to perform better and better. I am on a mission to retrain the old refrain to focus on what I do well ... and dwell in the gratitude I have for the life I lead. The composition I speak ... lives inside of my head.

      Sending you love darling Elizabeth!
      xox

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  5. Thanks for sharing! Gratitude is everything! You look beautiful and fulfilled!

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  6. Dear Tamera, your words are always as beautiful and encouraging as your lovely self. Crowning yourself is such a good concept, and one I need reminding about from time to time. Pearl crown and lace skirt are gorgeous, and the outfit inspired. xx

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    1. Thank you so much Patricia! You are always so sweet and encouraging! I always so appreciate your visits dear! and I always so enjoy visiting your blog and learning more about Brisbane! xo

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  7. Tamera, How about Crowning Glory as a potential name or tagline for your blog? You definitely embody 'glory' in how you express yourself so creatively and lovingly. And your crowns are so unique . . . and so You. I always enjoy your posts - they inspire me to indulge and share my own creative pursuits more often. Family always comes first, but I hope you don't step away from your own creative pursuits. After all, your creativity is part of your 'crowning glory.' :)
    Judy

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    1. Wow Judy! Thank you so much for your wonderful words! They truly touch my heart and are truly a gift! Thank you for your visit and taking the time to comment!! xo

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  8. Spot on -- I love your crown and the magical outfit here. Most of all, thanks for sharing your words of kindness and wisdom in this post. As a writer and newspaper columnist who started publishing in the mid 1980s, I truly miss the days "before social media." In retrospect, life was much more authentic, less "look at me" and was so much richer without Facebook, Twitter, Instagram ... all of it. As writers and artists, we now spend twice as much time "branding" and promoting ourselves as we do actually creating work that anyone would want to see or read. It's overwhelming and ridiculous at times, and I find that so much of it leads to emptiness. You're so right to step back and take a breather from it all.

    So keep on creating your beautiful blog, and sharing your fashion with us. It's very inspiring. People who love and appreciate you will always know how and where to find you. That is magical.

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    1. Cindy thank you for your comment my dear! Such an excellent point that these days branding and promoting can take away from time creating. I definitely hear you! I think that is some what where I was going with my post. I think I frustrate myself so often ... by being disappointed in myself ... for not getting everything done to the level I would like. It's when I can step back and realign my priorities that things seem to fall into place better.

      Thanks again for taking the time to leave such an insightful comment and such encouraging words! xo

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  9. Goodness. You're fabulous. You've got it all and don't need more. Crown yourself, gratitude yourself, what ever you need. But just don't stop. I must admit a little envy. I feel like I look like a scarecrow next to you and your fabulousness.

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    1. Sandra thank you for your visit darling! Quite the compliment coming from your beautiful and ever so accomplished artist self. I appreciate you taking the time to leave such encouraging words! xo

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  10. First of all, thank you for being REAL. Life was much easier without social media.
    The good, bad, and flat out ugly in life has shaped me. I am grateful to have made it through the really dark times. I'll take my old, skinny, wrinkled self any day...I've earned it. Xoxo

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    1. Barb thank you for your visit darling! You are inspirational in your ability to navigate out of your really dark times ... to 'Chasing Your Next Chapters'. I have appreciated your sharing of your journey. I am inspired by your fortitude of spirit darling! xoxo

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  11. Oh to be able to switch of that horrible inner voice!
    You have the gifts of beauty, creativity and insight and so many more which I am not privy to.
    Great post.

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    1. Thank you ever so much dearest Tabitha!! xo

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  12. Dear Tamera..... as always, your style inspires me. Today, your words from your heart touches me deeply as we women continue to struggle with the concept that we are good enough in our own skin. On the contrary, we have so much to be grateful for.... LIFE! We are alive to chose what we FEEL best for ourselves, and then life by our choices with grace. Thank you for taking the time to share your wisdom. xoxo

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    1. Lark how wonderful to find your comment here! Huge kudos for your tech persistence!! I of all people know how challenging tech can be!

      Thank you darling for your rich and encouraging words ... as well as your emails! I hope your retirement is proceeding beautifully my dear! Thank you for your visit and comment! xo

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  13. This is so right on! I find myself at the crossroads of nearing 50 and sending my oldest off to college next year and raising 2 more at home! I am running my race and staying in my lane so to speak. I have days when I compare myself to others and I know that is not what God's plan for me is. I pray and study scripture and that grounds and centers me as I embrace the fact that I am fully enough because God made me so.

    Thank you sweet Tamera for rocking truth as always and I hope I get to meet you in person one day!
    xo

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    1. Shon thank you for your visit darling! I had no idea you had three children, I only knew of your two girls! How are you doing with your oldest leaving for college ... I sure remember those days. But you my dear seemed beautifully grounded in your lane dear! You are a radiant beauty ... inside and out!! xo

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  14. I love this post, Tamera. I have been turning to my real creative life more recently to keep me productive and positive. Social media can sometimes be a big suck hole.

    I liked Cindy La Ferle's comment - when did the line between creating and branding get so blurred? I remember when newspaper journalists started having their photos published with their stories. I was disappointed and shocked. Having the branding issue so caught up in appearance is troubling.

    You are definitely an original, a precious one. I LOOOVE those dingle-ball carpeted slip-ons, your mixing of neutral textures and patterns that still manages to look so vibrant. And your humongous bag. Truly wonderful to see.

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    1. Melanie how wonderful to have you visit my dear! You are always a true inspiration!! big congrats again on your successful talk! What a lucky audience they were!! xox

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  15. "Some days it can be too easy to be swept up in the winds of comparisons." Thank you for this terrific post. Your style and your spirit are inspiring! xox

    -Patti
    http://notdeadyetstyle.com

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    1. Thank you so much beautiful Patti! And thank you as always for your continued hosting of Visible Monday darling!

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  16. Let me join in with the chorus of applause for this wonderful post Tamera. You are a beautiful, gifted, highly creative woman who has a years of experience that go to make you the unique person you are. Social media is a double edged sword - perfect when life is bobbing along nicely, but a drag when it's undermining your confidence. I have nothing but admiration for you my dear x

    Anna
    www.annasislandstyle.com

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    1. Why thank you ever so much darling for your encouraging words and taking the time to visit and comment! xox

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  17. hmm, "Not Young, Thin or Rich"....or "Crowning Glory"....or "Tamara Beardsley".....call it what you like- I love to read it all. You've truly made me slow down, approach life more thoughtfully, remember to have fun with my creativity (not pour it ALL into the business end of things, but save some for myself!). Your blog is probably one of the very very few (I can count on one hand), that I love reading EVERY single post. I know you'll have beautiful pictures, and thoughtful entries, with some AMAZING fashion looks - some I might be brave enough to pull together my own 'version' of. And one day... I hope to have one of your fabulous crowns! I just love them!! You really inspire me to have more fun with my life!! Cheer & blessings to you dear!

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  18. You have no need to compare. You are amazingly awesome in so many ways Tamera (inside and on the outside) you truly are. Always, always.... be YOU (and I love your magnificent crown) xx

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  19. Exceptional post however I was wanting to know if you could write a little more on this subject? I’d be very grateful if you could elaborate a little bit further. Many thanks!

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