apple picking....and the seasons...

It is a family tradition here to begin our
 fall season...
apple picking

in Oak Glen

this year it was just Jeff and I 
and it was good too

loving fall as i do...

this is a fall styling jump start that I love...
heading out of town...up the mountain...to pick from natures seasonal beauty...

to truly absorb the seasonal change....
bringing back the bounty and colors of the season...
the beginning of my fall styling process.


This last week...

with all the family changes here....
and
the anticipation of my beloved fall....

got me reflecting on the relationship between the two...

I realized...
just as there are seasons in nature...

so too are there 
seasons in a family....

and in marriages....

In my life there are seasons I prefer over others...

but  I do my very best to celebrate the richness of each season..

to make the most of the time that and season that is before me...


realizing that there are seasons in a family...
has been an epiphany for me.

because if there are seasons...

then my Now...
is not a reflection on what has been...

nor is it a prediction of what 
will be...

it is just
a season in our family...

the years parenting  late teens...
are a season unto themselves...

and seeing them as such...
makes me realize...

it won't always feel like this....

as my daughter has left her teen years behind....
I see her becoming not only a daughter I am so very proud of....
but a young woman I am excited to know....

I am reassured my sons will turn out just as amazing...
as they leave their season of teens behind.

and until then...
I will do what I do with all the seasons...
celebrate them for the gifts that they bring...



as always dear friends

I wish you love and joy
as you style your life




15 comments:

  1. Love and joy to you, too, Tamera. You are such a lovely woman both inside and out. Your children are so fortunate to have such a loving mother.
    xo, A

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    1. My dear Adrienne, thank you so very much for your kind words!

      I want you to know your post today on wearing vintage/second hand pieces has inspired me ...I am now working on some scarves...thank you for the inspiration my dear!

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  2. i love how you worded that about trying to enjoy and appreciate the richness of each season...so so well put, thank you...

    and that apple orchard looks spectacular!!! I am sure it was quite different and a bit bittersweet being just you and your husband, but i'm so proud of you and your perspective is golden.

    xo

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    1. thank you sweet Gina...you know with trying times we must try our best to find perspective...

      the orchard was spectacular...it is something i look forward to each season...although I missed ellis bad at one point...not so much my boys...as one can imagine...this was never their idea of fun...it actually was really nice to experience the orchard with Jeff...who was happy to be there :)

      i so appreciate your visits and loving comments my dear!

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  3. I love this metaphor, especially as a framing or re-framing which brings us into connection with the present moment. Thank you, Tamera!

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    1. Ah Amber...your words are always poetic intuition my dear! Thank You!

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  4. You are right! Life is just like passing through giant seasons of the year...both with children and marriage. This is a wonderful perspective to embrace and really gives me a different mindset. Fall! I cannot tell you how much I adore fall. I dreamed of fall as a child growing up in So. Louisiana. Then when I FINALLY moved to the NE, and then N. I experienced such spectacular fall seasons. I usually try to plan our vacations in Fall but it didn't work out for this year. We decided to wait until Spring Break to see if M. wants to go with us (or go somewhere with college friends) I am going to Santa Barbara to see family in late Sept. Do they have a distinct fall there? Both my kids and I are very fall inclined and being here in the hot south leaves us more eager than ever to take out those scarves and hats!

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    1. Yes, what is it about fall... i just love it...and yearn for it all year! We have seasons not as dramatic as many ...here in Southern California...but i make it a point of savoring the changes that i so love...even the shorter days... Sometimes in the fall...even I have been known to make a family meal.... :)

      Santa Barbara...anytime is a gift..but especially at the end of September...the lighting is perfection with a cool briskness in the air..especially at night. It was our family trips there and two hours further north...in San Luis Obispo...that Ellis found her college of choice. What a fabulous place to visit family..if you venture further south...let me know...we live about 3 hours south of Santa Barbara...I would be nothing less than honored to meet you...in person!

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  5. Hi Tamera! So glad you stopped by my blog. Following you now. You have gorgeous photos! True, so true, that life is a series of seasons. Birth, life, reaping, ending, rebirth, gifts, over and over and over.

    xoxo
    Lynn

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    1. So glad for your visit my dear! Again...your photo collage was amazing!

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  6. I have been away for a few days, stopped back in to have your words wash over me like a soothing breeze. Thank you, Tamera. I have had an empty nest for 7 years. Some days, I long for muddy soccer cleats, ballet slipper, a dirty dish left someplace odd, like a bathroom, a little squabble over the remote control and a board game left on the table. These things drove me nuts and I often WANT them back1 Thank you for reminding me to embrace this season, a season for me to reflect and yet still move forward.

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  7. Barb...thank you...for your words...for even though i can see the empty nest on the horizon...i am often run off the rails with my frustrations of older teen boys. As anybody who writes about getting the pieces to all fit in place...sometimes I can't... and I give into being less than appreciative of this 'season'... thank you Barb, for reminding me that this season too will be a memory...that i long to have back...as are so many pieces of years gone by. Your words are a gift to my soul.

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    1. Hi Tamera!
      I am so glad Ellis made it safely to Turin.
      I know you're sad because your "chicks" have left but to see it in a positive way, you know in Italy most of the kids never leave their nest, it's a huge issue over here and both parents and kids are so frustrated..

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  8. I'm nodding away here, so so true, sometimes we feel stuck but eventually things turn and change again.

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