... when shopping for new shoes... is more than shopping for shoes ...


I am on the hunt today for new shoes...

And I know I'm really shopping for so much more....

I want to find a  new piece that will tie the other pieces
that are mine
 together...

I want to find something...


I can put on... and feel happier...

Slip myself into a happier self...
where all the pieces fit...
and the sadness and hurt are shed.


I want to a pair that puts some zing back in my step...

It's been a hard week for me here...

One where gratitude lists...
still didn't cut through the heartache...

Realizing...
sometimes it's OK...
to say I am hurt...
hurting...
without fearing a slip down the rabbit hole into depression.

For me there is growth in
admitting hurt...
for I have always been much more comfortable...
just staying in anger.

Realizing...
sometimes those closest to us...
can hurt us the most...
and there is nothing to do...
but move on...

and look for new happiness...

and sometimes...

a new pair of shoes...


as always my friends

I wish you love and joy
as you style your life







29 comments:

  1. My thoughts exactly this week. Let's don't go down the rabbit hole. You go shop for shoes and I'll go plant some bulbs and look for a brighter day next time!

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    1. Planting bulbs... a fabulous idea! Hope your week is looking up my dear! Thanks so for stopping by!

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  2. I've always had trouble with anger, hurt and wounded comes easy to me and yes sometimes a diversion like new shoes helps.Hope you find what you're looking for.

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    1. Thank you so very much Tabitha... the shoe search hasn't really worked so well... I do suppose my time shall be better spent... literally getting my house in order... I have let it slip a bit this week.

      Think of you often as fall approaches... and you living in one of my fall favorites! Thanks for visiting from Scotland my dear!

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  3. I'm sorry you have been having a difficult week and feeling hurt, Tamera. Yep, those closest to us have the power to get to us, don't they? But if shoes are the solution, then get some super-duper fabulous ones! Me, I'm hoping a haircut will do the trick! xxxx

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    1. Oooh a haircut is a very... very good idea! As of yet... I haven't been able to find the shoes with the right fit... so your idea sounds better!!

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  4. Oh Miss Tamera, I'm sorry you have had a rough week. Hoping you found some absolutely knock-'em dead shoes. Buying shoes is much better than my solution, which is eating. Arghhh...

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    1. donna thank you so very much for your kind words!

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  5. OMG so many wonderfull stuff, can watch for hours!
    You are lucky to have such a wonderful taste.

    have a wonderful week
    Dana, Germany
    http://danalovesfashionandmusic.blogspot.de/

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    1. Thank you Dana ... thank you also for visiting from Germany!

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  6. Tamera~

    I enjoy reading your blog so much and really admire your talent. I am sorry you are having a tough time. And as far as the rabbit hole goes, if you start to sink I am certain that someone will be there to lend you their hand. You will be all right, even if you decide to sit for a little while with the pain.

    ~Take Care

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    1. Julia... that you for your gentle and encouraging words... they truly touch my heart.

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  7. I'm sorry . . . may the shoes heal. . . and may you share them with us soon in some of your lovely photos.

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    1. Thank you so much my dear... I do love your 'shoes heal"... really... so perfect!

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  8. So sorry to hear this week hasn't been the best for you. Shoe shopping is a great idea though. One can always a get a lift (literally) from that.

    I hope the shoe fairy is on your side.

    bisous
    Suzanne

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    1. Suzanne... thank you so much my dear... I will definitely be on the lookout for my shoe fairies!!

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  9. Just by writing this has and being able to look at your beautiful creation is reason not to go down the rabbit hole. You are so very right in realizing and sharing your hurt. See, we are not meant to go about this all alone, that's why we have shoulders to share ad ears to listen to one another and when all else fails, shoes to try on and buy and put that zing back into our walk. May you find the perfect pair today, my friend.

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    1. My dear, dear Trina... thank you for such words of love... and your personal message today. You are so right... sharing our hearts ... is what we are meant to do... the good and the hard. You have made my life so much brighter today my friend.

      xoxo
      Tamera

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  10. I visit your blog regularly..and so enjoy it. I am hoping that your hurt will fade and that the rabbit hole will be shallow. You seem a lovely lady Tamera...hang in. Eleanore

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    1. Dear Eleanore .... thank you for the gift of such eloquent words... I marvel at the idea of a shallow rabbit hole... so very poetic... and with such kind words... I know it will be. Thank you so for the uplifting comment.

      xoxo
      Tamera

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  11. Dear Tamera, It is good to share and trust me many of us, even on the surface it may not look like it, are also enduring hurt, pain, physical disability, and heartache! This is our blog community!

    xoxo
    Karena
    Art by Karena

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    1. Karena... thank you so very much for your words... they comfort my heart and soul... and make this blogging world... a place of such love and support... a true community in the very best sense of the word.

      xoxox
      Tamera

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  12. I am so touched beyond words... for each of these comments... each of which are truly a gift to my soul. I will definitely be back in the morning... to answer each and every one. For now... so, so much thanks....


    xoxo
    Tamera

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  13. Anger and hurt come to us all. Weariness! I go into the garden or into a book!

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  14. Tamera dear,
    I am moved by your honesty and deeply reflective post. I am sorry for your pain and darkness this week. I understand depression myself and it can be a slippery slope. I find our blog community to be so supportive and from the comments I see that you have received lots of virtual hugs on this post. I'm hoping that things are looking up by now. Hugs to you my lovely friend.
    xx, Heather
    PS-I hope you found some killer kicks!!

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  15. Sharing your hurt and your process is honest and generous. And shoes are a helpful tool as you regain your footing. Your writing inspires with its soulful sincerity.

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  16. Inspiration comes on the mountain and in the valley. through your honesty on your blog you provide both.

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  17. Tamera, your blog is so inspiring. I found you through the Style Crone and I also follow Advanced Style. I too have experienced much disappointment and hurt caused by those closest to me. If one can't talk about that hurt one cannot overcome the pain that builds up in our hearts and the resentment it causes. I have learned that I cannot depend on those persons to make my happy so, I have been in search of others that love and enjoy the same beauty in life that I do. I am an artist. I oil paint, sew/design, garden and love to decorate. I love all things creative and beautiful. You are a beautiful person both inside and out andI am inspired by a kindred spirit. I hope you found some great shoes. I am on the same quest. Hugs and warm wishes.

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