tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post2113252233622929537..comments2024-03-22T10:44:19.390-07:00Comments on Tamera Beardsley: Month Nine and Ten ... Surviving Marital BetrayalTamera Beardsleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00855427513744644731noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-15166837664276919692018-10-06T00:09:08.746-07:002018-10-06T00:09:08.746-07:00Dearest Tamera, I decided to drop by today in resp...Dearest Tamera, I decided to drop by today in response to your pic on Instagram where you turned up fresh faced with no make-up and challenged the role of intsa in our lives. After reading this too, I'm so impressed at your openness and bravery at sharing things so many of us would shy away from. I admit that I use my blog and Instagram as my happy place, but that's not because I want to masquerade as being wonderful and perfect. No, it's because we all need inspiration and just as you and another blogger have inspired me of late, I'd like to think that I can be a small ray of sunshine in others lives too.<br />It's a difficult thing to open up and share this tumultuous journey that you're currently on, but oh how I admire you your honesty, determination and sheer grit that you will make things work.<br />Bravo dearest Tamera, keep going, rebuilding your marriage one brick at a time. <br />Anna xAnna's Island Stylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04997013627919505807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-78474200733041936222018-09-22T18:36:31.446-07:002018-09-22T18:36:31.446-07:00I'm in awe of your honesty and courage as you ...I'm in awe of your honesty and courage as you continue to document the ups and downs of this very difficult year. Wishing you love, comfort and perseverance today and everyday. xoJuliethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04456421773883505754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-46801773521006693592018-09-22T17:03:59.095-07:002018-09-22T17:03:59.095-07:00Goodness. This is my first time here...and I have ...Goodness. This is my first time here...and I have to say, even as you're writing on such a difficult subject, your writing is so lovely.<br /><br />I hope you continue forward through this...and gain the outcome you want.<br /><br />Bettye<br />https://fashionschlub.comFashion Schlubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08955119552327945874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-73657043921875016712018-09-18T16:10:28.165-07:002018-09-18T16:10:28.165-07:00Hi Tamera
Your words ring so true to me! I have ...Hi Tamera<br /><br />Your words ring so true to me! I have been through this and it is a constant test of strength and commitment. You're so right when you say that you just never know when something will trigger thoughts and anger and hurt and there is really nothing you can do about it. You need to be reassured and you have every right for your feelings to be acknowledged. It's a fine line we walk when we want the marriage to work and we still want to be angry some days. I admire you for your honesty and you are definitely helping others who are going through the same thing. You have every right to take as much time as you need and to also take care of yourself! I think you are are an amazing woman and that you have handled this situation with grace. I don't know what is happening with your son, but I'm sure that your heart is hurting over that as well. Life sometimes gives us everything at once, but you are an example of how to deal with it all beautifully. I'm sending you, as always, all my love.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06626244423746420583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-79936928873652472732018-09-18T12:23:30.970-07:002018-09-18T12:23:30.970-07:00It seems like you're saying that your husband ...It seems like you're saying that your husband is putting forth his best effort to try and repair this. It seems like you are still harboring anger which is understandable; everyone moves at their own pace. Maybe this won't work out in the end, but if he is truly, truly sorry and you can feel this in his voice and eyes and heart when you speak honestly to each other, well, I hope you can work it out because (from experience) I know that you can sometimes live to wish you had been able to see things in a different light. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-82682840857158483742018-09-18T12:05:22.234-07:002018-09-18T12:05:22.234-07:00Anon 11:16
Very cogent thoughts.
Anon 11:16 <br />Very cogent thoughts.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-70277192199561709572018-09-18T10:55:58.849-07:002018-09-18T10:55:58.849-07:00My dear friend, I’m in awe of the strength and cou...My dear friend, I’m in awe of the strength and courage in your continued vulnerability. Your posts are a beautiful example of the fierceness of Midlife as you open your heart for the gift of your healing along with helping others. You’re a treasure and I’m humbled to call you my friend. Sweet and Southttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17561962627580361738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-54880241428014132372018-09-17T23:16:01.747-07:002018-09-17T23:16:01.747-07:00People generally hurt a long time before acting ou...People generally hurt a long time before acting out. Some people decide they're going to leave when the kids are grown, and verbalize it to others all along the way. Some people are impetuous and act on the moment. Whatever way, both partners are hurting. There are times someone points the finger at their partner for a "big" betrayal, when betrayal of the marriage has been happening at their own choice for years and years through seemingly small decisions made along the way. Taking responsibility for what led a partner to seek fulfillment outside a marriage, is what comes with having walked awhile in healing. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-86868685772777401142018-09-17T16:10:31.625-07:002018-09-17T16:10:31.625-07:00"As the hurt partner"...and he's not..."As the hurt partner"...and he's not hurting? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-19814522411214471532018-09-17T14:54:40.440-07:002018-09-17T14:54:40.440-07:00Your journey reminds me of after 10 breast cancer ...Your journey reminds me of after 10 breast cancer surgeries and eight rounds of chemo and my doctor said, "Go live your life. I don't need to see you, again. If it recurs, you'll find it before I would anyway." Not having the crutch of those visits and blood tests and scans made me feel like I was walking on a tightrope without a net, but eventually I got to the place where I couldn't live in that zone anymore. It wasn't healthy for me or my husband. It was time to let go and live my life and see who I was without breast cancer. In your case, it's who are you beyond betrayal? That's a healthy place to be. I hope you get there, Tamera. xoxo, Brenda1010ParkPlacehttp://www.1010parkplace.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-34300541617834198962018-09-17T11:45:04.631-07:002018-09-17T11:45:04.631-07:00I remain wishing you both well. I also like the &q...I remain wishing you both well. I also like the "I am not a Robot" game before publishing a comment is accepted :)denise pagettnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-91792383958704996342018-09-17T10:16:35.016-07:002018-09-17T10:16:35.016-07:00All great questions Nina. I've asked them mys...All great questions Nina. I've asked them myself plenty. But I do know that the MB posts definitely help with the processing and moving forward. And our therapist is on board. I think we all process pain differently, for me writing has always been therapeutic and also knowing the posts can help others. I get so many emails saying so. That all being said ... I am doing only one more on the year anniversary. I will be quite happy not to have to write on the subject again.<br /><br />Nina thank you for taking the time to leave your thought provoking questions. I truly appreciate them. xoTamera Beardsleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00855427513744644731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-84100859732354666222018-09-17T09:50:06.308-07:002018-09-17T09:50:06.308-07:00I am wondering if these blogs about MB are in your...I am wondering if these blogs about MB are in your best psychological interest. I trust you are undergoing therapy. What does he/she say? I hear pain... self inflicted torture... why? Perhaps you are on the right track... I'd have taken a different tack. But each one has to find what's best for them. Best of luck.. ninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01024339835977205522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-60334237604352485942018-09-17T08:50:22.920-07:002018-09-17T08:50:22.920-07:00Aww thank you ever so much dearest Loreen, for yo...Aww thank you ever so much dearest Loreen, for your sweet gift of words and sentiment! xoTamera Beardsleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00855427513744644731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-40527539723146183622018-09-17T08:49:03.263-07:002018-09-17T08:49:03.263-07:00Donna thank you very much dear, for your encouragi...Donna thank you very much dear, for your encouraging words! xoTamera Beardsleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00855427513744644731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-12804896145257722682018-09-17T08:46:38.703-07:002018-09-17T08:46:38.703-07:00Thank you for sharing Tamera! I admire your guts,c...Thank you for sharing Tamera! I admire your guts,courage and determination that you have every single day! As always such great words of wisdom no matter what we are dealing with! Wishing you continuous love,strength and gratitude each day❤️🙏Loreenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06565310981323008310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7926693259891960139.post-332325313424216772018-09-17T08:33:45.465-07:002018-09-17T08:33:45.465-07:00Continued success. I am glad you haven’t given up ...Continued success. I am glad you haven’t given up but chosen your marriage. It is worth itDonna Tagliaferrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13705679077073780322noreply@blogger.com